Here today…

They say time flies when you’re having fun.  And sometimes it seems to fly by anyway… fun or not.

Last week certainly flew by, with a lot of fun and laughter.  We were privileged to be able to host a team of 6 young people (5 guys and 1 girl plus 2 very long-suffering leaders) from our home church in Worcester, England.   It really was a huge joy to have them here, especially as we have known them since they were 8 or 9 years old.  They threw themselves in to everything with enthusiasm and servant-hearted compassion and were loved everywhere they went.

But the week was book-ended by two sudden deaths, one at either end.  As we were waiting at the airport to meet the team on their arrival, I heard that a colleague’s husband had been shot and killed, leaving behind his wife and four children.  And on the morning of the team’s departure, we had news of  the death of a 19 year-old young man from our local community, killed in a car accident in America the day after his wedding, along with his bride.  We had met him once, only briefly, but he had left an impression on us with his good-nature, impeccable manners and charm.  He had a heart to serve God and was committed to following Jesus wherever that might take him.

20637928_10212247092926490_6258010486942827706_nSo, a week of highs and lows, and a reminder that we never know how many our days will be, but God has numbered each one and written them in His book.  It matters far less whether we live to 99 or are taken at 19 – the only thing that matters is whether our eternity is secure in Christ.

Thanks for coming to see and serve here, guys.  We loved our time with you.  We’ve loved watching you grow up to be fun, crazy, delightful young adults.  But more than anything else, we are so glad that you have committed to follow Jesus and trusted him with your life and with your eternal destiny.  There really is no other way.

 

This is a gun-free zone

Some offices have motivational posters on the walls.  Some customer service centres have inspirational sayings aimed at building customer confidence.  Our “local” (45 minutes’ drive away) telecoms office has a sign telling customers that this is a gun-free zone.  They don’t have a great reputation for customer service so it was reassuring 161to know that, even if the staff were as surly and uncooperative as rumour has it, I was unlikely to sustain any bullet wounds.  As it turned out, the wait wasn’t tooooooooooo long although the deep sighs and occasional tuts from the lady next to me showed that clearly she felt differently.  I didn’t get my problem resolved.  To be honest, I really wasn’t expecting to… but I did have a nice chat with a totally charming guy and he gave me a form.  Is it the right form?  Only time and another trip back to the gun-free zone will tell.

Having the right form is critical.  Not just when it comes to phones, but also visas, birth certificates, driving licences and pretty much every other essential piece of documentation you need.  They all start with a form.  Or many forms.

Last year some time, the girls and I took a trip to the centre of Cape Town to the Home Affairs office there to try to do the late registration of births process that would allow them to take up their dual citizenship.  We joined the appropriate queue only to be redirected to another.  I explained that I wanted to register their births and was given a small forest conveniently repackaged into paper format.  The official insisted that yes, they really did need Neil to fill in a form to determine his right to South African citizenship even though his family are UK born unto the third and fourth (and even more) generation.  We gathered up the reams of paper, and headed off to find Neil to get him to bring us up to speed on his parents’ place of birth.  Some hours and several gallons of ink later we returned to the office, queued again and saw a different person.  She carefully and methodically examined every form, before telling me I needed a letter from the UK government confirming that I was a British citizen at the time of the girls’ births.  Apparently, there was some possibility in her mind that in spite of having British citizenship at birth and a current British passport, a scenario might exist whereby I had lost/relinquished/been stripped of my British citizenship, had two children and then had British citzenship restored.

I tried to point this out to her but she only said “Well, I can send it up to Pretoria like this if you like, but they will only send it back…”   The comedian Trevor Noah once said that he was stunned to discover that Pretoria was actually a place as he had always thought it was a large hole in the ground into which laughing bureaucrats happily tipped paperwork.  Subdued by the threat of Pretoria, I meekly took back my paperwork and headed home.

At this point, any Brit who is feeling quietly smug about foreign bureaucratic ineptitude might want to wander off and make a cup of tea or a gin and tonic because it turns out that the UK Home Office weren’t exactly helpful either.  Actually, I first tried the British Consulate in Cape Town.  You know, the consul… the one who is here to help British nationals in a foreign country?  Once I had worked out the limited opening hours (between 11:30 and 11:32 on every third alternate Thursday when there is no R in the month, I think), I found out that they don’t produce letters for anyone.  Ever.  Next step was to email the Home Office who very helpfully replied to my email with a form. (Because I didn’t have enough of those already)  They very kindly said that if I paid them £130 and returned the form they would tell me if I was eligible to apply for a British passport.  In the spirit of true British politeness I referred them gently to my previous email and the attached copy of my passport… the British one… asking if there was some other way they could confirm my British-ness.  In the spirit of true international civil service bureaucracy, they replied that if I filled in the form and paid them £130 they would assess my eligibility for a British passport.

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Mother and baby elephant on the long walk to register the baby’s birth…

I went and made a cup of tea.

And there it sat.  A small and unwelcome pile of paper on my desk, smirking quietly whenever I looked its way, until a chance comment on a local Facebook group put me in touch with a lady living nearby.  She told me to go to a different office (“Ignore what it says on the Home Affairs website about them only processing this at certain offices”), to bypass the queue (how terribly un-British!) and to ask by name at reception for a particular lady.  So I did.  And the result is that three months later, Izzy is now the proud owner of a South African birth certificate and a letter from the South African government saying that she is a South African citizen and is therefore invested with the right to say “Howzit”, “Izzit?” and “Shame!” and to toyitoyi as required.  (I think that was in the small print somewhere.)  Zoe’s will take a little longer as, being over 16, there are police checks to be made.  Now that Izzy has this, she no longer needs to renew her study visa later this year, saving us quite some time in form filling and queuing and also quite a lot of money which would have to be paid out for a chest x-ray and the visa processing fees.

Another time I can tell you about our attempts to apply for permanent residency for Neil, but neither you nor I have got the stamina for that particular saga right now. my-cup-of-tea

 

2016 in pictures

I’ve been sorting through photos, trying to upload onto Google drive and move things off my rather poorly laptop.  So here are some photos to capture something of what 2016 held…

January to April saw us spending a lot of time with these wonderful people – an American missionary family from Angola who came to Cape Town for Danny’s medical treatment.  Such a special family who we have come to love so dearly.  They return regularly for medical checkups – all clear so far – so we have the joy of catching up every few months… but it’s not quite often enough! (Sorry, Riley… but I love the way that pic captures your crazy cheeky side!)

April also saw a graduation for students at Living Hope, with a group moving from phase 1 to phase 2 and a group moving from phase 3 to phase 4.  It has been a joy and privilege to watch students grow in confidence and spiritual maturity and to be able to keep in touch with some after they leave.  Gamu, in the picture on the right, has been taken on at a local restaurant where her potential has quickly been spotted and she has been moved from washing up duties to learning to make the perfect latte.

June and July saw a 3-week trip back to the UK to catch up with friends, family and supporting churches.  It was wonderful to see old friends and to see so many new faces at church.  I was really excited to see Woodgreen Evangelical Church reaching out to the deaf community with signing at services.

Returning to a cold and wintry Cape Town, we were soon in whale season, although I have yet to capture any great whale photos… most of mine are a whale if you know they’re a whale, otherwise they’re just a rock!  It was pretty exciting to see the v-shaped spray from a humpback whale just the day after I read somewhere that this is how you recognise them from their spouting!

September saw some real excitement for Living Hope’s HTI programme as our phase 4 student, Langa, was awarded the gold prize at the local further education college’s entrepreneur contest, seeing off some stiff competition.  fullsizerender_6

He impressed the judges with his business skill and knowledge and his honesty, integrity and godliness shone throughout the day.

That wasn’t all… he subsequently went on to the final 5 in a national pitch and polish entrepreneur’s competition, winning himself an all-expenses paid trip to Johannesburg to the finals.  His success is a testimony to his own hard work, as well as to the depth and breadth of the training he has had at the Living Hope course.  And at every step of the way his response has been… “To God be the glory!”

October was visitors’ month, with three visitors from the UK, Rachel and then Peter and Glenys.  Visitors mean a little sightseeing, and in spring (yes, October is spring down here) that definitely meant a trip to Kirstenbosh Botanical Gardens where Peter and I probably took a few thousand photos between us!

November feels like a blur…and the year rushed on into December with another Living Hope graduation, iThemba preschool graduation, carol services, carol concerts, another visit from the Hall family from Angola and much more. We will be spending Christmas Day with a few friends – American, Zulu, Xhosa – all united in rejoicing in Emmanuel – God with us.  Thanks for reading my intermittent bloggings through the year.  I promise to try harder in 2017!

“Consider how the wild flowers grow. They do not labour or spin. Yet I tell you, not even Solomon in all his splendor was dressed like one of these.”  Luke 12:27

 

Ups and downs

Living surrounded by mountains, ups and downs are kind of inevitable really. And life has been full of ups and downs in other ways too since we got back from our visit to the UK. 

Back in the days when I had to do performance appraisals with staff, we were always told to present feedback in a “good news – bad news – good news” sandwich. So here are some of the ups, downs and ups of the last couple of months. 

Ups…  

  • Graduating our five phase 2 students on to phase 3. At every stage we celebrate achievements with speeches, certificates and cake. And of course we had to have sugar paste tomatoes on our cake. The highlights of graduation for me were a beautiful song from one of the students, Ntsiki, and a very moving speech from Shepherd, another student. 
  • Welcoming Peter and Glenys Barham from Woodgreen Evangelical Church, our home church in the UK. They spent a week with us and blessed us ok so many many ways. 

Downs…

  • Health (again!) as we went through a bad reaction to anaesthetic for poor Zoë, meaning that a day op turned into a three day stay. We are so thankful for access to good healthcare and for health insurance. Izzy has had a series of viruses and then Zoë had mumps.  Maybe just all a coincidence but we have been aware more than once that the devil doesn’t play fair and is not above attacking our children. 
  • We said goodbye to Melody, one of our students, who was finding it too hard to juggle the course and her childcare. We miss her but I keep in touch and we met up again just yesterday for a chat. We also said goodbye last week to Shepherd who has left to take up a great opportunity as a telecoms engineer. His gentle and godly spirit will be much missed by students and staff alike.  
  • It was also hard to say goodbye again to friends and family in the UK. 

And ups…

  • God has answered prayer in a mighty way in the lives of our students as we see them growing spiritually. This has been very visible over the last few weeks when a difficult situation has been turned around completely and one of our students is visibly transformed as he has been coming to understand the power of love and forgiveness. His previously stern demeanour has been replaced by a much more joyful spirit and a new closeness with the rest of the team. God is so good!  There are other stories of how our students are finding their families affected for good by the growth experienced at Living Hope. God is growing so much more than vegetables in that place!
  • We welcomed a new SIM family to the valley today and look forward to getting to know them and their three teenage daughters better. 
  • We see answers to prayer in so many ways, from changed lives to firemen’s poles – you’ll have to wait for another time for that story. And this is such an encouragement to us, not least as we look ahead to next year and trust God that he will provide the shortfall in our support. 

The Bible has many references to mountains and valleys and we treasure them as we live and serve here in our valley, knowing that even if the mountains should crumble into the sea, our God will remain good and faithful as he has always been. 

Thank you for reading, for praying, for supporting, for encouraging. 

G(r)o(w)ing for gold

The phase 3 students at Living Hope Harvest Training Initiative are given the use of a polytunnel and also given a small loan to start them off on a tomato growing business.  At the moment, we only have one phase 3 student, but what a guy he is!  Langa has grown in confidence, grown spiritually and grown in his love for the Lord.  When he leads morning devotions, his passion for God’s word and for living God’s way are so evident.  The other students look up to him as a great example and he both inspires and encourages them.  Today, that inspiration and encouragement reached new levels…

A few weeks ago, Langa came and asked me for a little IT help in putting together his presentation for an entrepreneurship competition he was entering, organised by the local further education college and sponsored by a number of organisations.  He and I worked on this together and he emailed it off.  Over 100 young budding entrepreneurs entered the contest and Langa made it to the final 15.  Today, he invited us and two of the other lecturers from the HTI to join him at the final stage where the finalists would be able to meet the judges and tell them about their business proposals before the final six contestants would pitch, Dragon’s Den style, for the cash prizes on offer.

An early start saw us heading into Masiphumelele to fetch Langa, neatly bypassing the guys butchering a sheep on the side of the road.  The college building was a striking contrast, with marble floors and a very upmarket banqueting suite (not to mention a rather yummy breakfast waiting for us).  Langa and his tomatoes, with a plateful chopped fullsizerender_1up for tasting, faced the onslaught of questions from college staff, families and friends of other contestants and of course… the judges.  The standard of the entries was impressive with some very interesting and innovative ideas ranging from panel beating through to a language translation app.  It was such a positive sight to see so many young people with viable business ideas, putting their heart and soul into trying to create small businesses.

After the judges had finished visiting all the stands, it was time for lunch while they deliberated.  Then came the nail-biting stuff as they announced (in no particular order) the final six, who would then have to present a three minute pitch about their business.  I was so glad I didn’t have to make that decision – I would have put at least 12 of them through!  Langa’s name was the last to be called and he was the last to pitch.  He was confident and showed clearly that he knows his business and knows his financial plan.  Then came the nerve-racking moments as they announced the two bronze prize winners, who took home R5000 each, the three silver prize winners, who claimed R10000 each and finally, the gold prize winner who would receive R15000 to invest in his business.  That lovely lunch was being tossed around by all the butterflies in my stomach by this stage!  As each name was read, the tension mounted until finally there was only one finalist left and only the gold prize winner to be announced… and even those of us who aren’t great at maths could work out that Langa and his tomatoes had won the day.  Judging by the reactions of a number of the college staff and course managers, this was a hugely popular choice – which is very gracious of them since he is not a graduate of their business programme but of Living Hope’s!  It was a really emotional moment to see this fine young man receive such wonderful recognition of his ability and hard work.

And on arrival back at Living Hope, he was given a hero’s welcome before heading back to his tunnel and his plants.  But not before being presented with a bouquet – HTI style – made up from weeds and spinach…img_1909

What a load of rubbish…?

That could be a comment about the entire contents of this blog, but actually I haven’t done a wheelie bin post for a while… all right, I haven’t done any kind of a post for a while.  So a wheelie bin post it is.  (Newcomers to the blog – it’s a recurring theme going back to my very first post.)

Here in Fish Hoek, although we are in the far south and on the other side of the mountain, we do enjoy something that nobody else in Cape Town does… kerb side recycling collection.  Every week we are given a clear bin liner and every week a van comes and collects the full one and takes it away.  We trust that it is emptied and the contents are sorted and recycled, but who knows!  This pilot scheme has yet to be rolled out across the rest of city, so for now we are really the privileged few.

We also have wheelie bins and the putting out of the wheelie bin can be an issue of much sensitive neighbourhood protocol.  On some streets you are frowned upon if you put it out the night before, whereas in other areas this kind of relaxed behaviour is acceptable.  But c-scavenger-1one thing is sure… pretty much as soon as the bin goes out, the bin pickers will arrive.  It takes some getting used to seeing grown men and women carefully emptying out the contents of the wheelie bin, untying the bin bags and removing anything that might be edible, reusable or have some saleable value. Some householders will chase them away, claiming that they make a mess, but I have watched many times as they just as carefully put everything back in the bin.  We, and many others, pack our wheelie bin accordingly.  If we have any food items that are still edible, we keep them separate and put them in a plastic bag at the very top, or even on the lid.  A friend of mine has just told me that she freezes little bits of leftovers that otherwise she would bin and puts these out on bin day, and I’m starting to do that too.  Anything else that might be of interest, again we put in a plastic bag separately.  And the bag is usually whisked away very promptly.  The early bird most definitely catches the best bin pickings.  I have often seen four or five different people come and check through our bin.  The organised ones have a supermarket trolley which they load up with their findings.Sidewalk sleeper, garbage scavenger

Locally, these people are often referred to as “bergies” from the Afrikaans word “berg” for “mountain” because some of them live on the mountainsides in shelters made from plastic sheeting and timbers.  Some live under motorway flyovers and a number of the bin pickers who live in our area live under the bridge at the edge of the beach.  Alcohol and drug abuse is a problem for a number of those living rough like this; some have fallen off the edges of society for other reasons and for others it is a deliberate choice.   Whatever the reason, these are still people made in God’s image and I am grateful for the tiny opportunities to help them.  As a friend said to me recently, “It is incredibly easy to bless someone over here.”  Where there is much poverty, even a small bag of frozen food, or a pair of worn out shoes can make a difference to someone’s life.  As can a smile and a warm greeting.

(Photo credits go to Hermann Hanekom who blogs at newsferret.wordpress.com whose photos I found via Google.)

Living Hope

Those blog readers who also receive our prayer letters will have noticed us mentioning DSCN1126“Living Hope” or maybe “Living Way” and may be wondering what this is all about.  So here is a very brief potted history of Living Hope and in particular the business training part of their work.

The Fish Hoek valley (“The Valley” to those of us who live here… there may be other valleys elsewhere in the world, but we doubt that they are of any particular interest) is home to several different communities:

Fish Hoek itself and Sun Valley – the town of the nearly deads and the newly-weds.  The earlier part of the town was built to house ex-servicemen after the war, like my grandad.  Since then the town has grown considerably, but it has remained popular as a retirement town, as the average age of residents here indicates.  Young families are moving down from the Southern Suburbs (from Over The Mountain) because property prices are a little lower and the schools are good.

Kommetjie, Capri, Sunnydale – home to a mixture of surfers, families and those who epitomise the lifestyle here beyond the Lentil Curtain.  For some reason (geographical? social?) the valley is home to quite a few people who are keen followers of new age beliefs, alternative (including some very alternative) medicine and some unusual spiritual beliefs.

Masiphumelele – the name is Xhosa for “we will succeed”, and this area is home to maybe around 40,000 people.  It is hard to be sure as some of these are migrants from Malawi, Zimbabwe, the Democratic Republic of Congo or other nearby countries and not all of them have legal status.  Some of the housing is brick built, but many homes are made from tin sheets, and the facilities in the town are severely overstretched.  Poverty levels and unemployment are high.  Of those who do have work, many are employed as casual labour on a day by day basis, often paid as little as £8 a day, in a country where food prices are not correspondingly low.  Crime levels are high, and policing has been inadequate although is starting to improve slowly.

Ocean View – a rather misleading name as I am not sure that you can see the ocean from here.  This area is where the Cape Coloured people who had been living elsewhere on the Southern Peninsula or further afield were forcibly relocated in the 1960’s.  Drug use and alcoholism are rampant and gangs rage open warfare on the streets.  A recent survey in Ocean View found that a number of primary school children had witnessed a shooting or seen a dead body.  People living in Ocean View live in fear of being caught up in gang-related shootings, where passers-by are routinely shot to prevent them providing the police with witness statements.  Ambulances called for victims of shootings are unable to attend without a police escort.

It is in the context of the poverty and despair of Masi and Ocean View that Living Hope was born.  Pastor John Thomas from the Baptist church, King of Kings, founded the work which has grown to include hospice care, community based health care, TB and HIV screening, youth work, mother and baby groups, addiction support and the business training initiative.  The goal behind this last one is to train and equip people who have no skills to be able to work to support themselves and their families.  Many of the people living in Masi have come from rural areas to look for work. Many of them have smallholdings of land back in their home area, but do DSCN1321not have the skills to farm this land effectively and profitably.  The Harvest Training Initiative, previously  known as Living Way, trains people in business and agricultural skills so that they can use these skills either in agriculture or elsewhere. Those who have previously completed part or all of the course are now working in a number of areas:

  • chicken farming locally
  • returned to rural areas in South Africa or elsewhere to farm their own land and teach others what they have learnt
  • working on large-scale farms elsewhere, using the skills learnt (graduates of the training scheme are popular with farmers because of their skills)
  • running a local fruit and vegetable stall, applying the business principles learnt

Running alongside the business skills is a strong Biblical emphasis.  All students are required to attend an Alpha course during the first stage.  Those who progress to the second stage attend daily devotions, a Bible study during the week and separate men’s and women’s discipleship classes with us on a Friday morning.  The aim is for them to be trained not only in agricultural and business skills, but also to be equipped to live for Christ.

There is a wide range of future possibilities within the business training initiative, including short courses in IT, English, farming and cooking to name but a few.  (Those who know me will be relieved to hear I am not going to be teaching the cooking!) But the vision is clear – whatever the course, there will always be Bible teaching as an integral part.

What have we been doing there?

Neil has run the Alpha course twice now and we are on our second group of discipleship students.  Neil still keeps in contact with students who have left to encourage them, and I have been encouraging a young lady who completed stages 1-3 IMG_1576but did not continue to the final stage.  She has now decided she would like to pursue a career in beauty therapy – hair, nails and massage.  God has provided a wonderful lady from our church who is a highly skilled beauty therapist and who had been praying for an opportunity to give back in service into the community.  She is providing some training, free of charge.  And I have to be the practice case… another Indian head massage coming up tomorrow.  It’s tough, but someone has to do it!  Neil, on the other hand, gets drawn in at times to help with deliveries when people or vehicles let the side down.  It has been a wonderful thing to see how God has opened up opportunities in this way.  The course leaders are all men, but over half of the current student group are women, and so I have found myself drawn in to providing pastoral care and support for these ladies, some of whom face battles far beyond anything I have ever had to experience.

What are the highlights?

Many!  Seeing the genuine love and respect that the students have for Neil at the graduation a few months ago.  (The gentleman in the photo is Zex who has returned to Malawi fired up with enthusiasm to farm his land effectively and teach others from the Bible what God has taught him while he was here.)  Realising that  promising to pray for someone (and then doing it) is a huge eIMG_1587ncouragement to them… particularly when we are able to see God answer those prayers.  Going to devotions and hearing a stage 4 student, Langa, share from the Bible with passion and enthusiasm.  Seeing the love and support between the students.  Having our eyes opened to a totally different cultural view on familiar Bible passages. Getting lots of hugs and being called “mom”.   Chatting with Gerrit who has taken over leadership of this project and feeling his passion for Christ.

And the challenges?

Knowing where to target our involvement when there are so many things that could be done.  Trying not to feel overwhelmed by the scale of the problems.  Keeping our eyes fixed on Jesus and encouraging others to do the same.

This has been rather a long post.  I do apologise for that.  But if you have stayed the course and want to know more, there is a video below about the harvest training initiative.  The lady, Patricia, was headhunted to work at a large farm on completion of stage 4.  The gentleman, Einstein, is farming chickens locally and has a good reputation with local shops for the quality of his eggs.  The guy with the strong accent is Gerrit… sorry, no subtitles!

Thank you for reading to the end.  Thank you for your prayers.

https://youtu.be/FiHVuV6cMRc

 

Don’t check your change…

Really, trust me on this one.  Unless you want to lost all sight of your sanity, do not check your change in shops in South Africa.  OK, you could perhaps check that you have been given roughly the right amount of notes and maybe even silver coins.  But the coppers?  Nope, just smile and chuck ’em in your purse.

Here in sunny South Africa, we have a fairly chilled approach to the whole issue of pricing and small change.  Currency is pretty easy to get your head around.  We have 100 cents to 1 rand.  Our coins are 5c (no longer minted but still in circulation), 10c, 20c, 50c, R1, R2 and R5.  Notes are R10, R20, R50, R100 and R200.  Simple huh?  Well, it would be except that whilst the government stopped production of 1 and 2 cent coins in 2002, shops still price goods in the retailers’ favourite of 99 cent increments.  Yes, it has been 14 years and we still haven’t realised that in the absence of a 1 cent means that it really is a little tricky to give someone the correct change when they buy something requiring you to give them change in anything other than multiples of 5.

The more sophisticated stores have tills which automatically operate a rounding system, so your till slip will show an adjusted amount and your change will match up accordingly.  Less high tech establishments will tell you that your purchases came to, for example, R38.97 and proceed to give you either R1.05 or R1.10 or maybe just R1.00 depending on what is available in the till.  Generally, the inability to give the correct change is worked in your favour, although there is one particular large chain who will always keep the change if the purchase amount comes to more than .95.  Which I guess is one way to boost your profits.  As 5c coins are sometimes hard to come by, stores will happily just give you 10c change instead of 1c.  How they balance up those tills at the end of the day is anyone’s guess.

So, in the words of a car park ticket machine… change

 

 

but I really wouldn’t bother to try to check it.

I’ll be there just now, it’s hectic in the stop-go

Translation?  My arrival time is very uncertain as the roadworks contraflow system is (a) rather busy, (b) highly stressful, or (c) currently the scene of a drive-by shooting and a taxi drivers’ turf war complete with a burning tyre roadblock.

From which you learn that in spite of having been here for 16 months, I still haven’t quite grasped the correct contextual usage of the word “hectic”.  In the UK, I can confidently use the word in sentences like, “I am so sorry I haven’t been in touch; things have been a little hectic.”  Over here, “hectic” seems to have a slightly more fluid meaning, which has connotations of stress and possible life-threatening danger.  But I have also heard it used in slightly less dramatic circumstances.  All of which mean that it is a word I try to avoid using for fear of seeming a little melodramatic.

As for the rest of this title, anyone who has either read previous blog posts or had anything to do with South Africans, knows that “just now” has a different, somewhat less time-bound meaning over here.  And the stop-go? We do contraflows in roadworks in a different way here.  None of this waiting for two minutes with your engine running and your fingers drumming on the wheel before negotiating your way through a 1/2 mile stretch of roadworks.  Oh no… in rural areas here, we think nothing of having a 15 or 20km stretch of contraflow, with a 15-20 minute waiting time.  And even here in the almost legendary South Peninsula Main Road roadworks (currently heading for their 5th birthday celebrations…I’m thinking of baking a cake), although the distance currently being roadworkschurned up is only a few hundred metres, we still hold to the principle of the long wait.  Which is fine.  You turn off your engine, get out your book or pick up your phone and catch up on your social networking.  Timing is everything, but totally out of your control.  Firstly, there is the timing that allows you to join the queue at the right point so that you only have one 20 minute waiting spell, rather than a 20 minute wait, followed by a bit of driving, followed by a 20 minute wait again.  Secondly, there is the timing that allows you a waiting spot with a good view.  Hairdressers and Indian restaurant.. not bad.  False Bay with the mountains beyond, and maybe even the occasional whale in season… much better.  Portaloos…oh dear, but at least you are fairly near the front of the queue.

Those of us who live in the right places and know the right back street routes, manage to bypass a bit of the queues, because once the line along Main Road starts moving, drivers around here are incredibly kind to those coming in from the side streets and allow us to filter in on a one from each direction basis.  In the UK, you would be dependent on looking pathetic and trying to make eye contact with someone in the main queue.  Here, it is regarded as an unwritten rule that this is what must happen.

I’ll leave you with another example of South Africans using words in a different way.  The word “shame” here is an all-encompassing pantheon of sympathy and empathy, covering birth, death and everything in between.  It has absolutely no connotations of guilt or implied blame.  Recently, I was messaging an American friend and asked how the family were.  He said that his wife and teenage daughters were sleeping in after a late night packing suitcases.  I replied “Shame”.  Then hastily realised that this might be seen to imply disapproval of their late rising.  Cue a swiftly typed explanation and apology.  Thankfully he has a great sense of humour and plenty of cross-cultural experience, so he was amused rather than offended.  So, if you ever hang out with South Africans and they say “shame” in response to anything you say, revel in their compassion and sympathy.  And remember… it is the correct reply to anyone who tells you that they are stuck in hectic traffic in the stop-go.

If you say so…

Recently, a women’s Bible study group I attend was looking at the character of Peter, and it struck me that we often give poor old Peter a bit of a hard time.  Sure, he was rather hot headed and impetuous, prone to speaking before thinking, but actually, if you take a look at the life of Peter in the gospel, there is another dominant theme that runs all the way through.  The words “if you say so, Lord…”

Matthew and Mark simply record that when Jesus said to Simon Peter, a fisherman at the side of the Sea of Galilee, “Follow me”, he left his nets and followed.  Luke adds a little IMG_0842more flesh to the bones of this story, telling us how Jesus used Peter’s boat as a mobile pulpit in order to get a little breathing space from the crowds who were gathering to listen.  When he had finished preaching, he told Peter to put out into deep water and let the boats down.  Peter, weary from a night’s fishing with nothing to show for it, points out that this seems a little pointless but adds: “But because you say so, I will….”  The nets are filled and Peter, convinced and convicted, leaves his livelihood and follows Jesus.

That response of “because you say so, I will…” follows through the rest of Peter’s life.  All twelve of the disciples saw Jesus walking across the water to them, but Peter was the one who said “Lord, if it’s you, tell me to come to you…”  and then got out oIMG_0836f the boat.  We often focus on how he then took his eyes off Jesus and began to sink, but it’s worth noting that although his faith failed him once out on the water, he was the only one to say “if you say so, I will…” in that way.

Yes, Peter went on to deny Jesus (the rest of the disciples didn’t exactly cover themselves in glory either), but was repentant and then restored by Jesus before going on to be a bold, Holy Spirit filled leader of the early church.

And in Acts 10, we see yet again this spirit of obedience, in spite of what his own thoughts and views on the subject might be, when God gives him a vision of all kinds of animals and tells him that God has made them clean.  The Spirit then tells Peter to go with the Gentiles who have come to ask him to go to the house of another Gentile.  This was a huge thing for a Jew like Peter.  Hanging out with Gentiles was a massive no-go and would take him well outside of his cultural and religious comfort zone, and leave him open to questions and criticism from other Jewish believers.  Yet he invites them in to spend the night and then goes with them to the house of Cornelius, and so the gospel spreads to Gentiles also.  In Acts 10:28-29 we find him saying “God has shown me that I should not call any man impure or unclean.  So I came without raising any objection.”

Obedience without objection was the quality Jesus had seen in Peter right from the very beginning.  At that early encounter, Peter questioned slightly but obeyed without objection.  When getting out of the boat, Peter asked merely for the call, then obeyed.  And here, yet again, when asked to do something which seemed, quite frankly, insane, he hears the voice of God and obeys.

I have heard it said that Peter’s readiness to speak out was one of the leadership qualities that God shaped and used in him to help build the early church.  But of even greater importance was Peter’s attitude of “because you say so, I will…”  Courage without obedience is merely misplaced bravado.  What was it Jesus truly treasured in Peter?  I think it was the love he had for Jesus and his unquestioning obedience.  Sure, he messed up big time, but he never lost that willingness to take a bold step of obedience in faith, no matter how crazy it looked…

  • leave my job, livelihood and home? If you say so, Lord.
  • get out of the boat and attempt the humanly impossible? If you say so, and in your power, Lord.
  • abandon my cultural comfort zone, possibly facing criticism from those within my own close circle?  If you say so, and with your guidance, Lord.